A Higher Standard

It’s bad when guys spend time with you in a way that makes you think they’re interested in more than a friendship. Bad because it misleads you and risks putting wear and tear on your heart. Bad because it’s defrauding. But what about when the guy doing that is widely-known to be training to be a pastor? I think it’s somehow worse. And that’s the topic of this week’s question and answer, “Curious Flirting,” on Boundless.

Following on the heels of this Q&A, I received a letter from a man who wants to know if it’s possible for women to defraud men. He wrote,

Is it possible for a woman to “defraud a man”? If
not, why not, and if so, what does that look like?

Almost all the stories and warnings of “leading people on” (i.e.
friendship without intentionality) seem to be geared towards men. Yet
it seems to me that the same criteria can apply to women as well.

What do you think?