A Military Path to Marriage

Thomas and Watters

This week, Boundless editor Ted Slater had a creative idea. Rather than the typical Q&A with John Thomas (for the guys), he thought it would be creative to have John and I both weigh in on the same question. I had an immediate and strong reaction to the question when I first read it, and agreed that it would interesting to see how we might approach it differently.

Here’s what our reader asked,

I’ve been in a serious relationship for about a year and a half, I’m really wanting to get married, but I haven’t completed much college and I don’t know exactly what I want to do for a living.

Right now I think that I want to enlist in the military. That would financially enable me to get married, and then when I came out I could go to college, and it would be all paid for. Not only that, I could serve my country!

My girlfriend doesn’t want me to do this, though, because she doesn’t want me to be deployed. It’s not like we’re engaged or married, so how much should I let her opinion weigh in on decision making? Obviously It has to, to some degree. It’s not like she’s giving me an ultimatium or anything. She said she would support me if I decide to do this.

Our side-by-side answers are here. I’m curious though, what would you answer?