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How should you respond if a non-Christian asks you out?

Last week I answered a question from a woman who isn’t sure how to turn down a date with an unbeliever. She wrote, A few weeks ago a non-Christian asked me out. I didn’t know he was interested in me, was taken off guard, and didn’t know how to respond. I felt very uncomfortable saying, […]

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How can I break up with an unbelieving boyfriend without turning him off to the faith?

Last week I received an email from a woman wondering about the best way to break up with her unbelieving boyfriend. She wrote, I have decided to break up with my non-Christian boyfriend. Should I tell him that my main reason for doing so is his lack of faith and thereby risk turning him off to […]

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How can I tactfully let people know my desire for marriage?

When I was single, I was embarrassed to admit my desire for marriage because it felt like an admission of defeat. Thankfully God sent an older, wiser woman to help me see the benefits of enlisting help and letting people know that I hoped to marry one day. What does it look like to express […]

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Keeping Wedding Costs Down

When we got married, $10,000 seemed like a fortune to spend on a wedding. Now that amount would barely cover half the cost of the average American wedding. Is it possible to have a celebration fitting the grand occasion of your wedding while still honoring God as His steward? This week I have a column […]

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Just Friends Limbo

When Steve and I were first becoming friends–and I was hoping it would become something more–he was dating someone else. The “other woman” is part of the high-jinx of our story and it seems to resonate with a lot of women. So today I answer a question from a woman who’s wondering if she (or […]

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Understanding Valentine’s Day

Growing up, my parents treated Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to bless my four siblings and me with sweet reminders that they loved us. A special breakfast before school, a surprise package in the mail at college, and later, a box of chocolates on my desk at the office. I wish I could say I […]

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A Social Network That Takes Marriage Seriously

Dr. Brad Wilcox is one of the top family scholars in America. His research at the University of Virginia focuses on marriage and cohabitation and on the ways that gender, religion, and children influence the quality and stability of American family life. A few years ago, Dr. Wilcox took the time to answer a few […]

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Radical Dating

February and March has been full of writing and speaking, including a breakout session at the Give Me an Answer: Radical conference hosted by Southern Seminary. While there, Steve and I spoke about what makes Christian marriage radical and why you have to date differently from the world if you want to end up in […]

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Men Aren’t the Problem, Sin Is

It’s easy to see the sin in people around us. Especially when it causes us pain. For single women, the temptation is to see all the failings of single men and think “they’re the reason I’m not married!” What’s harder is looking objectively at sin in our own hearts. That’s the subject of my article […]

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Learning to Date from Ruth and Rebekah

Lately I’ve been rethinking one of the more referred-to parts of Get Married—the story of how I “pulled a Ruth.” I guess I should say rethinking again. Because even though I updated “Pulling a Ruth” with Ruth Revisited—based on promptings of my conscience—this time I looked at how I sought clarity in my relationship with […]

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