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Q&A: Is it possible to date my ex’s friend?

Question More than a year ago, I broke up with my boyfriend.  Currently, I am quite interested in another guy that my ex is also friends with. Here’s the dilemma: I don’t want to hurt my ex. I was the one that broke up with him. I broke his heart, and even now, I feel […]

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When Past Plagues Present in Dating

Last week I answered the following from a man worried that his past may have a bleak affect on his future: Question I’m a single guy, never married but in the past I have a history of sexual immorality and a lifestyle that was in open rebellion against the Lord. I am dating a young […]

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How should you respond if a non-Christian asks you out?

Last week I answered a question from a woman who isn’t sure how to turn down a date with an unbeliever. She wrote, A few weeks ago a non-Christian asked me out. I didn’t know he was interested in me, was taken off guard, and didn’t know how to respond. I felt very uncomfortable saying, […]

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Hope for marriage when there’s so much divorce

Is it folly to hope for marriage when divorce is happening all around you? That’s the gist of the question I answered this week on Boundless. A young woman wrote, Over the past two years I have noticed more and more people separating and getting divorced after 15, 20, even after 30 years of marriage. […]

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How can I tactfully let people know my desire for marriage?

When I was single, I was embarrassed to admit my desire for marriage because it felt like an admission of defeat. Thankfully God sent an older, wiser woman to help me see the benefits of enlisting help and letting people know that I hoped to marry one day. What does it look like to express […]

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I Married an Unbeliever, Now What?

Last week advice columnist Starshine Roshell answered a question at from a self-described Christian woman married to an atheist man. She wrote, I have been married for two years, and we just got pregnant. Neither of us was planning it and we were using birth control, but I guess we were the lucky 1 percent. […]

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What if Your Friends are a Bad Influence?

In my recent advice column at I answer the question “How can I end a friendship that pulls me away from Christ?” The author of the question writes, When I began graduate school a few years ago, I formed a close friendship with a non-Christian classmate. Although I’ve tried to plant seeds in her […]

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Just Friends Limbo

When Steve and I were first becoming friends–and I was hoping it would become something more–he was dating someone else. The “other woman” is part of the high-jinx of our story and it seems to resonate with a lot of women. So today I answer a question from a woman who’s wondering if she (or […]

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Does Church Attendance Signal True Faith?

Today on I answer a question from a Christian woman whose boyfriend lied about going to church. What’s worse, the lie or his time away from the body? And what, if anything, does it all mean for their relationship going forward? Should she just forgive and forget? My answer is here.

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Should Women Initiate When Men Don’t?

That’s the question, two of them, actually, that I answer today on Boundless. One woman wants to know if it’s OK to ask a friend of hers to ask the guy she likes if he likes her. “Is this like the fourth grade?” she wants to know. Well, yes. She wonders if it’s “OK to […]

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