“I’ve been dating this guy (pre-med, kind of nerdy, logical, strategic type of guy) for two years. He is smart, consistent, predictable, and incredibly faithful. He wants to honor me, provide for me, and marry me. He has been very intentional with my parents and with his desire to love and cherish only me. I love him very much, but we do not have the same “chemistry” that I shared with my last boyfriend. We have problems and have to work through them. We disagree on things and have to compromise. There is no “magic” and I feel I could logically live without him if we broke up.
“I just saw my old boyfriend again this week and was reminded again how strong the chemistry is between us. I miss the life, excitement, and passion of the first guy, but obviously he is not the right mate for me. I have a logical love for the second guy, but can I marry him knowing that we do not have a similar connection?
“My mom thinks that I should not dismiss chemistry and should seriously consider not marrying the second guy because I do not have the same connection. I don’t want to go through life thinking about what I might have had if I had waited it out for a better connection. But I also don’t want to pass up a great guy who adores me and wants to marry me and make me happy.”
That’s the question on today’s Boundless Answers. What would you say? Here’s how I answered.