What’s Wrong with Me Syndrome

“What’s wrong with me?” That’s the question I often asked myself when passed over by a handsome young man who, though friends with me, chose to date one of my female friends instead.

From the looks of my inbox, I’m not the only Christian woman to experience that painful rejection.

Today on Boundless I reply to a woman who wrote,

I’ve never had a boyfriend. To love a man with the love God has given me for others is one thing I desire above all else. But I’ve yet remained “invisible.” Is something wrong with me? Every person I know tells me “Oh, you’re the sweetest person I know,” “You’re so loving,” and so forth. From others’ compliments I don’t think I’m hard to get along with, and I think I’m average looking.

I try to get myself involved with different social circles and activities, but I’m invisible. And the guy friends that I’ve thought, Maybe there is something here, end up dating other girls. I’m happy for them, but it makes me wonder what’s wrong with me? What is your suggestion for shaking this feeling of “something-must-be-wrong-with-me” syndrome that I seem to be struggling with?

My answer is here.