He'd Be a Great Husband and Father, But ...

But he's not a believer. But he's from a Muslim home, but he's not practicing. But we were sexually intimate and I can't seem to stay broken up. But I think I made a terrible decision leaving him. But he'd be a great husband and father. There are a lot of reasons to stay in a relationship and this week's Q&A for Boundless is with a woman who is worried that she made a mistake breaking things off with her boyfriend.

She wrote,

I'm a recent college grad who fell in love with a guy who is Muslim but not really practicing. I told him I was a practicing Christian. He is a beautiful guy inside and out. We dated for about 9 1/2 months, during which I met his entire family, all his friends and people close to him. He has always treated me with respect and been very honest.

I, however, felt shameful in coming into the presence of God knowing that I was giving myself in every way to a guy who did not know Christ. I got the strength one night and decided to break up with him. I've been struggling ever since.

I feel as though I made a mistake in letting him go.

I've already heard from several women who used to be in relationships like hers but found the courage to end things. They wrote,

Breaking up with my agnostic ex-boyfriend was by far the hardest thing I've ever done... and it was also one of the best things I've ever done. That girl needs to hang in there, because God is good, He is faithful and He rewards those who follow Him!


Dating a nonbeliever really shifted my focus from God to me me me. Finally breaking up with him was awful--it hurt because I was in the relationship to please myself. But God truly is faithful and now I have a wonderful Christian husband who encourages my walk with Jesus and whose focus is on Christ. He was worth the heartbreak!

I also heard from a mom who said,

Thanks for such an open, honest interpretation of God's ideal of marriage. It is not popular to stand on scripture in any issue, but especially when it comes to marriage today. I thank the Lord for this article and trust that young woman will do the right thing by breaking away completely.

What would you do?

You can read my response here.